Frequently Asked Questions About a Social Retirement
It’s natural to have questions as you navigate this new social landscape. Here are answers to some of the most common ones.
How long does it take to make new friends in retirement?
This is perhaps the most common question, and the answer is: be patient. It takes longer than you think. Research shows that it can take dozens of hours of interaction to move someone from an acquaintance to a casual friend, and hundreds of hours to form a close friendship. Think in terms of months, not days or weeks. The key is consistent, repeated interaction. Seeing the same people every week at your pottery class or walking group is what builds the familiarity and trust that friendships are based on.
Where can I search for ‘senior social clubs near me’?
A great place to start is with a simple online search using that exact phrase. But to get more specific results, try searching for your town’s or city’s official website and looking for a “Parks and Recreation” or “Senior Services” department. They will have the most accurate and up-to-date listings of classes and clubs. The website for AARP has a section for local chapters and events. Your local library is another excellent resource. Don’t forget to look at physical bulletin boards at community centers, coffee shops, and grocery stores.
What if my spouse is less social than I am?
This is a very common situation. It is perfectly healthy and often beneficial for couples to have some separate interests and social circles in retirement. If you want to join a book club and your spouse wants to stay home, that’s okay. Encourage each other’s individual pursuits. The goal is to find a balance. Perhaps you do one or two social activities together each week, and then you each have a separate activity you do on your own. This gives you both space and new things to talk about when you are together.
