5. Spending my entire life trying to be someone else
People have a tendency to follow the crowd, but this is not the best approach. We understand that you want to blend in and do what others do, but if this isn’t you, why would you do that?
By doing this, you diminish the person you truly are. You were camouflaged by society. Don’t try to be someone else because, in the end, it will take so much from you. Of all of the retirement mistakes, this is maybe the saddest one.
In this life, you should strive to become the best version of yourself, and for this, you need to be true to yourself. Take all the time that you need to understand yourself, and we can assure you that you won’t regret it.
Find out what you like most and what you want to change about yourself. The most important thing to do is try to understand what makes you special. Try to see how your uniqueness can help you leave the world a better place than you found it.
Thank you so much for this wonderful advicess they are very important incites for people like us the retirees. I believe people like us can benefit a lot from this very educational article. I learned a lot from this, I hope others will have the time to read it and tell many other retirees.
Yes to looking after one’s body. My doctor gives laconic advice including “Keep moving”. I know several people who use canes and walkers much earlier than they should (60s, 70s) due to aversion to exercise and long-term very sedentary lives.
My doctor: “Keep moving”. Too much love of sedentary living and aversion to simple exercise leads to early dependence on canes and walkers.
Your advice is clearly very important for a self longer life – but with respect you didn’t mention
other important personal points – in my humble view.
1 Recognise how you have not acted decently in a friend/relationship which may deserve an apology.
2 Remember a friend who is having difficulties – your remembrance will be so welcome.
3 Tell all close to you how much they have positively meant to you even if they didn’t realise it.
4 Tell Family members how much you are proud of them and that you will always Love them
I am afraid that I won’t get everything done before I die. I also want to make sure I help my kids and grandkids in any way I think will help.I want to thank people and tell them how much they meant to me. I would like to leave some money for a few charities. Leave money for my kids and grands. Be grateful and try to instill in my family the importance of kindness, tradition, and following your dreams. what else is there?
Another thing we should do is to get closer to God. And fellowship with other believers.
How do you handle not having a life from which to retire, from living as a bum, from contributing nothing to the Greater Good? How does one accept the inability to life a life not lived but wated, despite starting off very promising. One can’t go back; nor forward for one has nothing to be proud of, not one success; nothing but misery. How does one enter retirement, with nothing to retire from?
So where, among all the ads, are the six?
So where, among all the fucking ads, are the six?